It’s easy to feel inadequate in today’s society especially when you play the comparison game. You probably know someone who appears to have it altogether with the perfect marriage, house, career and family. You probably scan Facebook seeing all of the wonderful pictures of vacations, concerts and other gatherings that your friends have. Those situations make it easy to see yourself as never being able to measure up. When you get into that negative frame of mind about your life then all you see is failure, rejections, and inadequacies. This may cause you to feel angry and powerless over your life. That is what you will reflect into your relationships rather than the grace and forgiveness that is a reflection of focusing on Christ.
Pastor Michael feels there are several reasons that you feel inadequate when looking in the mirror. The first is you have been the recipient of unfair criticism. There have been people in your life telling you that you “can’t” too many times, so that is what you believe. You want to move forward, but you feel like there is no point in trying because the voice in your head has you stuck in the past. Those damaging words will prevent you from having the confidence to make changes in your life. The second reason is the opposite as you have been given unrealistic compliments too many times. When people constantly tell you how amazing and incredible you are, it can cause you to feel inadequate. You begin to think there is no way you can live up to those expectations so you choose to not even try. You become paralyzed by the fear of failure. The last reason is “unfun” comparisons. This is where Facebook comes into play as you look at the highlights of everyone’s seemingly perfect lives and compare it to your everyday life. When doing that it’s easy to feel that your life sucks, but it’s not an even comparison. You also have to remember that your journey in life is not the same as your friends because God has different plans for all of us.
Pastor Michael told the story of Gideon to explain why you should remember these things when you see inadequacy in the mirror. God’s view of you is different than your own view of you. God has created a list of all the things you will be called to do and has already put that in you. God knows the potential that you have. God has also created you with more than you know. When all you see is the negative, use whatever strength you have to get up and take just one step in a new direction. Don’t believe what someone may have said about you in the past. You also need to remember that you are a vessel of the Holy Spirit. Since you are a Christian, God lives within you and is empowering you everyday. It is time to stop seeing your past and place your focus on your future with God. He will be with you every step of the way.